Revenge Intervention Process

The sting of a ‘bad’ call can linger far longer than the final buzzer, transforming competitive disappointment into deep-seated resentment, and sometimes, a powerful urge for revenge. Whether it was a penalty flag thrown at the ‘wrong’ time, a slashing call missed, or a clock violation that cost you the game, these moments of perceived injustice can feel like a profound personal betrayal. This seminar is built on the understanding that those feelings—that frustration, that initial anger, and the revenge-filled desire to see the official suffer for the call they made—are real, valid, and deeply destructive if left unchecked. 

The Revenge Intervention Process is a transformative experience designed to help you process and overcome the emotional fallout of a 'bad' call that hurt you, a family member, your team, or your teammate. Whether you’re a coach, player, or fan, we'll be providing you with cutting-edge psychological tools and strategies to turn that desire for vengeance into a path toward peace and emotional clarity. Additional details and resources can be found at RevengeIntervention.com.

Our journey begins by gaining a precise understanding of your current emotional state using the Transgression-Related Interpersonal Motivations Inventory (TRIM-18), a renowned psychological assessment developed by Dr. Michael McCullough and colleagues. It’s not a test. There are no right or wrong answers. By responding to statements on a scale of 1 to 5, you will measure the precise strength of your current thoughts and feelings related to unforgiveness and revenge toward the official in question. This baseline data is crucial, as it provides the objective starting point needed to measure your progress at healing the psychological wounds you’ve carried.

To facilitate this shift, we will equip you with powerful, practical tools. First, we will introduce and practice stress-reduction techniques, vital skills that work to soothe your body’s response to revenge ideation, allowing you to stay calm, centered, and keep a level head even when the chemicals in your brain conspire against you. The 5+5+5 technique provides you with a concrete approach to dealing with in-game revenge issues. 

Most crucially, we’ll introduce you to the Miracle Court App™. This innovative virtual courtroom provides a safe, constructive space to symbolically put the offending event, and the official, on trial. This revolutionary approach allows you to experience the catharsis of receiving justice, even if only virtually, and can serve as the critical step needed to move on from the pain of that ‘bad’ call and any lingering revenge cravings.

Revenge Intervention Process (RevengeIntervention.com)

• Welcome message

• Introduction to the Transgression-Related Interpersonal Motivations Inventory (TRIM-18), available in the appendix of this book, which was developed by Dr. Michael McCullough and colleagues. The TRIM is a psychological assessment tool that measures a person's feelings following a transgression, particularly in relation to forgiveness. You will respond to statements, on a scale of 1 to 5, to indicate your current thoughts and feelings about the official whose ‘bad’ call hurt you/your team/your teammate.

• Complete the TRIM-18 and score results.

• Teach and practice stress-reduction techniques. Stress-management techniques soothe your appetite for a revenge response so you stay calm and keep your head. Talk about the value of journaling and making daily entries. Journal about your day, your feelings, your plans, your game, your goals, your team, your family, etc. The 5+5+5 technique is an easy to remember technique that will help you immensely. Make a journal entry about yesterday. When you feel a revenge attack brewing, take five steps away from the sideline (relocating yourself is critical). Take five deep, slow breaths. Repeat this mantra five times, “Focus on the kids, focus on the next play.” 

• Introduction to Miracle Court App™: It provides the seminar attendees a virtual courthouse that allows them to put anyone on trial for any wrong ever done to them, their team, or their teammate (i.e. that ‘bad’ call that caused a revenge episode). It allows you to experience getting justice and can help you move on from the pain and trauma of the past. 

• Use the Miracle Court (https://www.miraclecourt.com/)

• Complete a self-reflection, between 250 to 750 words, that includes what happened in the Miracle Court, the event you put on trial, how the process made you feel about the actions of the official who made the ‘bad’ call, and how you feel about your original response to the official

• Retake the TRIM-18, score the results, and compare your result on the second taking of the TRIM-18 with those of your first taking

• Closing comments. Review journaling and the 5+5+5. Remind everyone of the benefits of Miracle Court. Discuss how to promote forgiveness to others.

Once you’ve taken yourself, the official, and the ‘bad’ call to Miracle Court, you’ll be able to complete your next case in far less time. As you progress in your efforts to eliminate revenge ideation, you can bring less significant events to Miracle Court.

Periodically take the TRIM-18 and compare your results with the results you got the first time you ever took it. After your first time in the Revenge Intervention seminar, take the TRIM-18 once a month. After six months of reassessments, take it six months later and then once a year. Make journal entries about your assessments and describe how you feel about each result.

You have now completed the full circle of intervention—from initial assessment to emotional processing, virtual justice, and deep personal reflection. By chronicling your experience in the Miracle Court, articulating how you felt, and confronting your original response to the 'bad' call in a thoughtful self-reflection, you’ve done the heavy, necessary work of transforming revenge ideation into proactive insight. The final, critical step was to retake the TRIM-18. Comparing your two results—the initial measure of unforgiveness against your post-Miracle Court emotional state—provides tangible, quantitative proof of the psychological progress you have made. If there was little change in the before and after TRIM-18 results, not much progress has been made. The results may confirm that the experience of receiving justice in your mind and the power of reflection has fundamentally shifted your internal motivations away from revenge and toward a path of a healthy resolution.

The journey doesn't end here; it simply shifts. You are now equipped not only with the peace that comes from processing an old hurt but also with a set of powerful skills—chief among them the 5+5+5 stress-management technique for in-game stress reduction—that will serve you in every facet of your life. I am hopeful that every future perceived ‘bad’ call will be met not with a destructive cycle of anger and vengeance, but with a calm, reasoned, and resilient response. I am confident that you will leave this seminar with the emotional freedom to focus on what truly matters: your performance, your team (the kids and the next play), and your future successes. Thank you for dedicating your time and honesty to this process; carry these lessons forward and embrace your well-earned emotional peace.